Today, more women especially in the black community far outnumber black men in higher education and has resulted in higher incomes for women, more independence and a shift in family, relationships and reproductive dynamics. More women more than ever are postponing motherhood or finding their choices are quite limited when it comes to child rearing. Author Joan K. Peters in a New York Time article states that:
“Our culture offers mothers two choices. It constructs four walls around mother and child even as women gasp for space, trying to mother and also pursue careers, maintain friendships, work out at the gym, and maybe have time to read a book. Stay or go, the culture declares. If you want to be a mother, watch the bricks and mortar set around you. Otherwise, peer at your child through the window. Send gifts. Celebrate holidays together. But otherwise, leave. The message is this: either women embrace motherhood in the traditional way, focusing primarily on their children, or they must turn their backs on mothering, relegating child care to others and carrying on as if reproduction were just a brief detour on the road of life. Even the traditionally inclined mother obliged to work to keep bread on the table may find so little support from her employer, from schools and children’s services, and from her husband that she too feels shut out of her family’s life.”
Do you agree with this assertion? Do you think women are delaying motherhood these days because of the seeming lack of options when it comes to women being accomplished careerist and traditional mothers in a modern and evolving society?